I-Narcissism sisifo sobuntu esizibonakalisa, ubukhulu becala, ekukwazini komntu ukumamela. I-Narcissism ichazwa 'njengomdla ogqithisileyo kwisiqu sakho,' kwaye olu phawu lunokwenza kube nzima ukuba abantu bavume okanye banikele ingqalelo kwabanye. I-narcissism egqithisileyo inokuwela kwisigulo sengqondo esibizwa ngokuba yi-narcissistic personality disorder, apho umntu eqhutywa kukufuna ukwamkelwa, kwaye engaziqondi okanye azikhathalele iimvakalelo zabanye. Ezi zezinye zeempawu eziphawulekayo kumntu onokuba yi-narcissistic.
Eshukunyiswa Yindumiso
Ukudumisa kunye nokuncoma yeyona mali iphambili kubantu abanengxaki ye-narcissism, kwaye ihamba kwicala elinye kuphela. Babonakalisa ngendlela exakayo zombini ingcamango eyonyusiweyo yokubaluleka kwabo kunye nokukhawuleza ukuziva becinezelwe yingxelo engakhiyo. Zimbini izinto ekufuneka uzigcine engqondweni xa uncoma umntu nge narcissism. Okokuqala, yindlela enye. Abayi kubuya ububele, kwaye kunqabile ukuba bavume imfuno yabanye abantu yokuncoma okanye impendulo eyakhayo ngaphandle kokuba iya kuhambelana neenjongo zabo. Kwakhona, ukungaphumeleli okanye ukuyeka ukuncoma kunokubangela ukugqithiswa, njengoko umntu ebona ukuba olu tshintsho luncinci kwi-ego yabo.
Zonke okanye Akukho Nto Iimpendulo
Ukungakulungeli ukuthatha uxanduva ngeempazamo zakhe kudla ngokuvela kumntu ocinga nge-narcissism. Ukuvuma ukuba wenze impazamo enye kunokukhokelela ekucingeni ukuba zonke izenzo azilunganga. Kunokuthiwa okufanayo ngendlela abaphendula ngayo kwabanye abantu - inyathelo elinye lobuxoki linokukhokelela umntu nge-narcissism ukuba agxothe umntu omaziyo ngokulungileyo.
Enye Indlela Yokuphulaphula
Enye indlela i-narcisism ezibonakalisa ngayo yindlela umntu asabela ngayo kwinto ethethwa ngomnye umntu. Ukuphulaphula kwe-Narcissistic kuyachitha, ukuchasa, ukungahoywa, ukunciphisa, ukunyelisa, okanye ngenye indlela kunika iinkxalabo zabanye abantu kunye namagqabantshintshi. Ithoni yokudelela sisalathisi esinamandla ngakumbi. Umntu unomdla kuphela koko bakuthethayo kwaye ulindele isivumelwano. Iimpendulo ezichasene nesi siphumo silindelekileyo zinokuthathwa njengokuzingca okanye, ngokuxakayo, i-narcissistic.
Imithetho Yeyabanye Abantu
Abantu abane-narcissism banoluvo lokuzingca kangangokuba bathanda ukubona abanye abantu bengaphantsi kwabo. Oku kusebenza nakwimigaqo, zombini imithetho kunye nezithethe zentlalo. Ngelixa besenokubonakala beyithobela imithetho, iya kuba lixesha nje elibafaneleyo. Oku kungahoywa kwenkqubo kunokubandakanya:
- Ukukopela: Abantu abane-narcissism bahlala bengathembekanga, njengoko behlala bekhangela iqabane elibonwa 'ngcono'.
- Ukudlala inkqubo: Ngelixa abanye abantu belinde emigceni, okanye bafake iirhafu zabo ngokuthembeka, aba bantu baya kuxhamla koku ukuze bazuze.
- Ukungahoywa kwemithetho ngokupheleleyo: Ukusuka kwizibane zokumisa ukuya kwizithintelo zesantya, abantu abane-narcissism baya kulandela kuphela le migaqo logama nje ihambelana nabo.
Ukuziphatha Ngokuzingca
Umntu one-narcissism unomdla kuphela kwintlalontle yakhe. Nangona oku kudla ngokubonakala ngokucacileyo kwiipatheni zentetho, kuya kuzibonakalisa nakwindlela yokuziphatha. Into ayifunayo umntu onjalo yinto aza kuyifumana. Baya kuhlala bengabaxhamli abaphambili bezenzo zabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abane-narcissism baziphatha ngendlela abanye abangayifumaniyo.
Ukutshintsha Umdlalo Wetyala
Obu buntununtunu obugqithisileyo ekugxekeni ngokuqhelekileyo bubonakalisa ukugxeka abanye abantu xa kukho into engahambi kakuhle. Ukufumana iziphoso kwabanye yindawo ekhululekile ngakumbi kubantu abane-narcissism. Xa bebhaqwe bengaziphethe kakuhle, impendulo eqhelekileyo kukubeka ityala kumgxeki. Kunokuba bacele uxolo, basenokuthi, 'Nguwe ondenze ndayenza.'
Ukutsiba komsindo
Lo mfanekiso wokuzikhukhumalisa udla ngokugquma ukungazithembi. Xa umntu egqabhuza isidima okanye ethuka umntu ngenkangeleko, usenokugqajukelwa ngamazwi nangezenzo ezithob’ isidima okanye ezoyikisayo. Izifundo ezininzi zinxibelelanisa i-narcissism kunye namanqanaba aphezulu obundlobongela kunye nobundlobongela. Ngenxa yokuba abantu abane-narcissism bacinga ukuba yonke into imalunga nabo, bayayiva imizamo yabanye yokuthetha ngeemvakalelo zabo njengezigxeko ezifihlakeleyo ngokwabo. Ukuba baziva bediniwe, basenokusabela ndlongondlongo.
Indlela yokujongana ne-narcissist
- Zibekele imida. Gqiba ukuba uphi na umda wakho. Namathela kuyo njengoko bezama ukohlwaya, ukukutsala, okanye ukukuxhaphaza.
- Mgxeke ngobunono. Basenokuba nomsindo xa usoyikisa ngembonakalo yabo. Gxininisa kwindlela ukuziphatha kwabo kukwenza uzive ngayo kunokuba kwiinjongo zabo.
- Hamba xa benomsindo. Zama kwakhona xa ezolile.
- Musa ukuphikisa. Mhlawumbi abayi kukuva kwaye banokuhlasela iinjongo zakho.
Imbali yeNarcissism
Igama elithi narcissism liye lasetyenziswa kangangamawaka eminyaka. Umntu wamandulo wasentsomini wamaGrike uNarcissus wayedume ngokuzixakekisa ngesiqu sakhe. Wathi akubona umfanekiso wakhe echibini, wazithanda waza ekugqibeleni waphelelwa lithemba ngenxa yokuba wayengayeki ukuwuncoma loo msinga. Intsimi ye-psychoanalysis yangena kwi-narcissism ekuqaleni kwee-1900, kwaye ngo-1914, uFreud wapapasha. KwiNarcissism: Intshayelelo.
I-Narcissism ayiyo yonke (okanye isoloko) imbi
Abantu beNarcissistic bahlala benesisa kakhulu. Ngokomzekelo, basenokunikela ngeemali ezinkulu kwimibutho yesisa. Nangona ekugqibeleni bekwenza oku ukuze bazive belungile, nangona kunjalo benza umahluko olungileyo. Idosi ye-narcissism inokuba yinto elungileyo, njengoko ukuzithemba okukunikayo kunokwakha ukuzithemba kwaye kuzise ulonwabo. Iinarcissists eziqhelekileyo zihlala zizithethi ezibalaseleyo kunye nababoni kwaye badla ngokufumana imivuzo emikhulu.