Nokuba iimvakalelo zethu zosizi zibangelwa yintlungu enzulu njengokufelwa ngumntu esimthandayo okanye utshintsho olukhulu ebomini, okanye ukucaphuka okungaphaya njengokuphulukana nefowuni yethu okanye izihlangu zethu esizithandayo, sonke siziva intlungu yeemvakalelo ngaxesha lithile. Siyichaza njengokuphelelwa lithemba, intlungu, ukuphoxeka, usizi, ukudandatheka, okanye ukungabi nakuzinceda. Yaye ngamanye amaxesha ukuva amazwi omnye umntu owayesiva intlungu efanayo waza watyhubela kuyo kunokusinceda siphilise okanye sisikhumbuze ukuba ukuphiliswa kunokwenzeka.
Iinyembezi Ziyahamba
AntonioGuillem / Getty ImifanekisoEzinye zezona zicatshulwa zibuhlungu zinento yokwenza nokukhala. Igcisa elidumileyo, umyili, kunye nomyili wezakhiwo uLeonardo da Vinci wathi, 'Iinyembezi ziphuma entliziyweni, kungekhona engqondweni.' Kwaye uWashington Irving, umbhali weencwadi zakudala ezinje nge'Rip Van Winkle' kunye 'neLegend of Sleepy Hollow,' wadanduluka wathi, 'Kukho ubungcwele kwiinyembezi. Abaluphawu lobuthathaka, kodwa olwamandla; bathetha iilwimi ezininzi ngaphezu kwamawaka alishumi. Bangabathunywa bentlungu egqithileyo, yosizi olukhulu, nothando olungathethekiyo.' Ngamazwi ethu: ungalibazisi ukuyikhala.
Icala Elilusizi Lolonwabo
Usizi luviwa ngumntu wonke, kuyo yonke indawo. Abanye abantu bayaqonda ukuba ngaphandle kosizi, ulonwabo belungayi kuba nentsingiselo. Njengoko umculi ongumGrike uNana Mouskouri wathi: 'Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ukuba awufundanga ngosizi, awukwazi ukuluxabisa ulonwabo.' Umdlali weqonga uAlyssa Milano wakubeka ngolu hlobo oku: ‘Okokuqala, yamkele intlungu. Qonda ukuba ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa, ukuphumelela akukuhle kangako.' Ukuba uzama ukujonga kwicala eliqaqambileyo, nantso.
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Intliziyo Eyaphukileyo Kunzima Ukuyilungisa
Phantse wonke umntu intliziyo yakhe yophukile ngaxesha lithile, kwaye zininzi izicaphulo ezibuhlungu ezikhala ngale meko. 'Wonke umntu unokophuka iintliziyo,' utshilo umlingisi uJames Marsden. 'Nokuba uyazi ukuba ubudlelwane abusebenzi, kusebuhlungu. Nokuba kubudlelwane obubi, bayinxalenye yobomi bakho ixesha elide, kwaye ukuvalelisa kuloo nto kunokuba nzima.' Mhlawumbi kuyanceda ukwazi nokuba abantu abadumileyo sele bekwizihlangu zakho?
Intlungu Elungileyo Okanye Intlungu Embi?
Ukufelwa ngumntu omthandayo yenye yezona zinto zinzima ekufuneka sizinyamezele njengabantu. UTerri Irwin, owaswelekelwa ngumyeni wakhe, u-Crocodile Hunter uSteve Irwin, kwingozi embi, uthe, 'Intlungu ayisoze iphele. Awuvuki ngenye intsasa uze uthi, 'Ndiyoyisile loo nto; ngoku ndiqhubela phambili.' Yinto ehamba ecaleni kwakho yonke imihla. Kwaye ukuba unokufunda indlela yokuyilawula kwaye ubeke imbeko kuloo mntu umkhumbulayo, unokuthatha into ebuhlungu kakhulu kwaye ube nohlobo oluthile lokunyaniseka.'
Ukukhetha Ulonwabo okanye Usizi
Iintanda-bulumko ezininzi zikholelwa ukuba kuxhomekeke kuye ngamnye wethu ukuba enze isigqibo sokuba azive onwabile okanye alusizi. Uza kwenza isigqibo njani namhlanje? 'Xa uvuka ntsasa nganye, unokukhetha ukonwaba okanye ukhethe ukuba lusizi,' utshilo usomashishini uLynda Resnick. 'Ngaphandle kokuba kwenzeke intlekele embi kubusuku obudlulileyo, kuxhomekeke kuwe. Ngomso kusasa, xa ilanga liphuma efestileni yakho, khetha ukuyenza ibe lusuku olumnandi.' Ke -- ingaba iglasi yakho igcwele isiqingatha, okanye igcwele isiqingatha?
Ukufikelela Kwincopho Yeemvakalelo
Abantu badla ngokufuna ngamandla ukuzibhokoxa ngaphaya kwamandla abo. Owayesakuba ngumdlali webhola ekhatywayo uTroy Polamalu uthe eyona nto ingcono: 'Kukho amaxesha endivuyayo. Kukho amaxesha endiba buhlungu. Kodwa ndihlala ndizama ukwahlula imvakalelo kwisidingo sokufikelela kwinto eyomeleleyo, enzulu. Yaye ke kungakhathaliseki ukuba ndiziva njani na, ndinokufikelela ukuzinza okundinceda ndiphumeze oko ndikuko.' Ngamanye amazwi --fikelela kwiinkwenkwezi, nokuba awuziva ufuna ukuphuma esofeni namhlanje.
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Inyaniso Edandathekisayo Yoxinzelelo
Namhlanje, ingxoxo ejikeleze impilo yengqondo ihamba phambili, kwaye abantu basebenza nzima ukuphelisa amabala angqongileyo. Elinye ibala elinjalo lelokuba abantu abazizityebi okanye abaphumeleleyo okanye ababonakala bonwabile abanako okanye akufanelekanga ukuba badandatheke. 'Ukuba buhlungu nokudandatheka zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. Kananjalo, abantu abaphantsi koxinzelelo abajongi njalo, ngelixa umntu olusizi ejongeka elusizi, utshilo umlingisi waseIndiya uDeepika Padukone. 'Eyona ndlela ixhaphakileyo yokusabela kukuba, 'Unokudandatheka njani? Unayo yonke into eyenzekayo kuwe. Ufanele ukuba uliqhawekazi eliphambili yaye unekhaya elitofotofo, imoto, imifanekiso eshukumayo... Yintoni enye oyifunayo?’’ Ukukhumbula oku kusenokukunceda, enoba ujamelene nodandatheko ngokwakho okanye kukho umntu omaziyo. Akukho mda womvuzo okanye ubudala kuxinzelelo.
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Ngaphezu Kwezinto Ezibonakalayo
Ngaba ukuba nendlu enkulu enedama lokuqubha, i-spa, iitofu zegolide kunye neqela labakhonzi ukukunceda ngayo yonke imfuno yakho kukwenza wonwabe? Mhlawumbi akunjalo. ‘Ndiqinisekile ukuba izinto eziphathekayo zinokufak’ isandla kakhulu ekwenzeni ubomi bukabani bube mnandi, kodwa, ngokusisiseko, ukuba akunabahlobo abalungileyo nezalamane ezibaluleke gqitha kuwe, ngokwenene ubomi buya kuba lilize yaye bube lusizi, yaye izinto eziphathekayo zingabikho. kubalulekile,' utshilo uDavid Rockefeller. Uyise kaRockefeller, uJohn, waseka i-Standard Oil Company kwaye kuqikelelwa ukuba wayene-3.3 yeebhiliyoni zeedola kubutyebi bakhe ngexesha lokufa kwakhe.
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Ulonwabo Lubetha Usizi
Kukho abantu abaphawulekayo abangafuniyo ukuzithoba kusizi. Bayaqonda ukuba iyenzeka kumntu wonke kodwa bangayivumeli ukuba yonakalise ezinye izinto ebomini babo. U-Audrey Hepburn, umdlali weqonga nothanda abantu, wathi: 'Ukuba ihlabathi lam belinokonakaliswa ngomso, bendiya kujonga emva kuzo zonke iziyolo, imincili kunye nolonwabo endiye ndanalo nethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndibe nalo. Hayi usizi, ukuphunyelwa sisisu okanye ukushiya kukatata ikhaya, kodwa uvuyo lwento yonke. Kuya kuba kwanele.' Ngamanye amaxesha, ukukhumbula 'okwaneleyo' kwakho kunokukunceda uphumelele.
Kulungile ukuziva ulusizi
Abantu bajongana nosizi ngeendlela ezahlukahlukeneyo. Abanye bayayishukumisa ngelixa abanye bentywila kumandlalo okuphelelwa lithemba. Umrepha waseMelika uMac Miller ucinga ukuba buhlungu kukuba ngumntu nje. 'Xa uziva ulusizi, kulungile. Ayikokuphela kwehlabathi. Wonke umntu unezo ntsuku xa uzithandabuza, kwaye xa uziva ngathi yonke into oyenzayo ifunxa, kodwa ke kukho ezo ntsuku xa uziva ngathi uSuperman. Lulungelelwano nje lwehlabathi.' Xa uziva uphantsi, khumbula ukuba i-Superman ivakalelwa ngokuza kwakhona.
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