Ukuziphatha gwenxa kuxa omnye umntu enomsindo ngokufihlakeleyo komnye. Le ndlela yokuziphatha ijolise ukohlwaya okanye ukuziphindezela kwinto encinane ecingelwayo. Umntu obonisa le ndlela yokuziphatha uya kusebenzisa izenzo zokwenziwa ndlongondlongo endaweni yokunxibelelana nokungoneliseki kwakhe ngamazwi. Xa uye waba lixhoba lokuziphatha, usenokungaqondi ukuba ubutshaba bomntu bunenjongo. Usenokushiyeka uzibuza ukuba kutheni lo mntu ekuphatha kakubi. Ngaba yayiyingozi? Ngaba unovelwano kakhulu?
Kutheni abantu beziphatha ngokungqongqo?
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Abantu basebenzisa i-passive-aggressive behavior ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Umntu akanako ukuziphatha ngale ndlela, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha baya kubonisa le ndlela yokuziphatha. Ngokonontlalontle onelayisenisi u-Signe Whitson, kukho izizathu ezisixhenxe zokuba kutheni abantu benza ngolu hlobo.
- Sifundiswa ukubonisa umsindo akwamkelekanga
- Iimpendulo ezinomsindo ezifakwe iswekile zamkelekile
- Ukuba ndlongondlongo kunzima ngakumbi
- Kulula ukulungelelanisa ukuziphatha
- Ukuziphindezela kuvakala kulungile
- Iluncedo
- Zive unamandla
Imizekelo ye-Passive-aggressive Behaviour
Indlela yokuziphatha engqongqo ingabonakaliswa ngeendlela ezininzi. Ubuqaqauli, ukubekel’ amangomso, kunye nokuqunjelwa ngokuqhelekileyo kuboniswa. Umntu unokuwufihla umsindo wakhe ngokwenza izizathu zokungathobeli. Abantu abanobutshaba basenokukhanyela ukuba banomsindo nangona kubonakala ukuba bacaphukile. Umntu osebenza naye ozibekela amangomso izinto angalinda de kube ngumzuzu wokugqibela ukuze agqibe umsebenzi awabelweyo okanye angenise umsebenzi emva kwexesha njengendlela yokohlwaya.
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Yintoni ebangela i-Passive-Aggressive Behaviour?
Abantu abanengxaki yokuthetha ngomsindo baguqukela kwindlela yokwenza izinto ezibonisa ukunganeliseki kwabo. Umntu oqhutywa ngumona uya kukufumanisa kwamkelekile ukuziphatha ngolu hlobo ukuze ahlukane neemvakalelo zakhe ezimbi. Abantu abaneengxaki zobuntu baya kusebenzisa i-passive-aggression ukuze babuyele kumntu ekujoliswe kubo. Amayeza kagqirha anokubangela ukuba umntu aphile.
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Ukujongana noMntu owenza i-Passive-Aggressive
Nje ukuba uqaphele indlela yokuziphatha engalunganga, ungajongana nayo ngcono kwaye ukhethe indlela yokuphendula. Abantu abaninzi bafumanisa ukuba ukutyeshela ukuziphatha yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokusabela. Ukuba umntu onobugwenxa akafumani ukwaneliseka kokukubona ubuhlungu ngezenzo zakhe, unokuyeka ukuziphatha ngale ndlela. Ukuba uvuma ngokuthe ngqo ukunyanzeliswa komntu, kunokubangela ukuba bongeze izenzo zabo ezimbi kuwe.
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Iimpawu zaBantu abaPassive-Aggressive
Abantu abasoloko besenza izinto ngokungqongqo babelana ngeempawu ezifanayo. Nje ukuba ufunde indlela yokubona indlela yokuziphatha, unokusabela ngcono kuyo. Unokufumanisa ukuba ukusebenzisana phakathi kwakho nomntu kunzima kuba umntu uziphatha ngokungekho ngqiqweni. Abantu abangenzi nto bakwenza ungonwabi rhoqo. Bavakalisa isikhalazo sabo sokuba abaziva bexatyiswa.
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Nakana iNtetho eNdlwebezelayo
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Kukho iindlela eziqhelekileyo abantu abathetha ngazo ukubonisa ubutshaba babo obufihlakeleyo. Usenokuqaphela ukuba indlela abathetha ngayo nawe ayivakali ncam kwaye uyaphoxeka. Ngokutsho konontlalontle, u-Signe Whitson, abantu abakhohlakeleyo banokuthi:
- Ndiyaphila.
- Andicaphukanga.
- Kulungile.
- Noba yintoni.
- Bendicinga ukuba uyazi.
- Ndingavuya ukuba.
- Bendidlala qha.
- Uqumbeleni?
Iindidi ze-Passive-Aggressiveness
U-Preston Ni ngunjingalwazi kunye nombhali oye wahlula i-passive-aggressive ukuziphatha kwiindidi ezine. Udidi lokuqala bubutshaba bomlomo. Umntu usenokusebenzisa ukuqhula, ukugxeka, nokuphoxa ukuze akhuphe umsindo wakhe. Udidi lwesibini bubutshaba bobudlelwane; umntu wenza ubuso obubini, unika impatho ethe cwaka kunye ne-backstabbing njengendlela yokuziphindezela. Udidi lwesithathu lubutshaba lomsebenzi ofihliweyo. Lindela ukubona ukulibazisa, ukuqina, kunye nokugxeka. Udidi lwesine bubutshaba kwabanye usebenzisa ukuzohlwaya; ukuba likhoboka, ukusilela ngabom, ukuzenzakalisa, kunye nokuba lixhoba zizenzo zokungenzi nto ukuze zikufundise isifundo.
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Ngaba unobudlelwane obunobutyhefu kunye noMntu oPassive-Aggressive?
Ukuba nobudlelwane nomntu ongenzi nto kunokuba nzima, kwaye ukuziphatha kwabo kunokugqalwa njengokuxhaphaza. La maqabane ngokuqhelekileyo axhomekeke kuwo; bathembele kuwe ngokugqithisileyo ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zabo zeemvakalelo nezengqondo. Obu budlelwane bungenampilo bunokuhenda ukuba uvumele ukuziphatha okungalunganga ngokunikezela kumaqhinga abo. Yiba nentembelo, baxelele ukuba awuzithandi izenzo zabo kunye nendlela ezichaphazela kakubi ngayo ubudlelwane bakho nabo.
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Indlela Yokuyeka Ukuba Nomsindo-Aggressive
Ngaba uzifumana usenza into engalunganga ngamanye amaxesha kwaye ungathanda ukutshintsha? Kukho amanyathelo onokuwathatha ukuze uthintele ukuziphatha ngale ndlela. Kuluncedo ukuqala ijenali ukubhala malunga namava akho kunye neengcinga malunga nokuziphatha kwakho. Ujongo olusondeleyo apho unokubonisa khona ukuziphatha okungalunganga kusemsebenzini wakho. Jonga ukuba unokuzibona uziphatha kakubi kwaye ufumane iindlela zokuhambisa umsindo wakho ngendlela enemveliso. Qonda ukuba utshintsho luthatha ixesha kodwa qhubeka uzama ukungavumeli isimo sakho sengqondo sinyuke ukuya kwinqanaba lokukhuphela umsindo wakho kwabanye.
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Amanqanaba ongquzulwano olungenasiphelo
Kukho izigaba zokunyuka kunye nezinto ezinegalelo ekuziphatheni ngendlela engaqhelekanga. Ukuqonda amanqanaba ongquzulwano kuya kukunceda ulawule iimvakalelo zakho. Zijonge uzama ukufihla umsindo wakho ngelixa uneengcinga ezingenangqondo malunga nendlela yokusingatha imeko enzima. Ngaba uqala ukuthukuthela, ukuphoxisa okanye ukunika umva-izandla izincomo? Inyathelo elilandelayo liya kuba lisebenza kwiimvakalelo zakho ngokubonisa iintlobo zokuziphatha eziya kubangela ukuba okujoliswe kuko kusabele ukucaphuka. Ngaba oku kuya kukwenza uzive ungcono ngokwenene?
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