Indlela Yokwanga

Ukumanga okulungileyo kunokwenza okanye ukwaphule umhla - kwaye, kulungile, kumnandi nje. Ukuncamisana kubudlelwane kunokunceda ukwakha ubuhlobo kunye nokusondelelana, singasathethi ke ukuba kuluncedo nakwimpilo yakho. Nokuba ufunda ukwanga okokuqala okanye ujonge nje ukuphakamisa umdlalo wakho wokuncamisa, ngamanye amaxesha konke esikufunayo kukuzithemba okuncinci - kunye neengcebiso ezimbalwa zokusikhomba kwicala elifanelekileyo.

Thumela imiqondiso ethile

Ukuba ufuna ukuncamisa umntu, vumela omnye umntu azi ngokukhupha iingcebiso ezifihlakeleyo - okanye hayi-ezifihlakeleyo. Ukujonga phantsi kwimilebe yabo, ukukhotha okanye ukuluma imilebe yakho, okanye ukungqiyama kancinane konke oko kunokubonisa ukuba uziva uthandana. Qinisekisa ukuba umoya wakho uhlaziyekile, kwaye akukho nakuphi na ukutya okuvaleleke phakathi kwamazinyo akho. Mhlawumbi cinga ngokufaka idyasi entsha ye-chapstick ukwenza imilebe yakho ithambe kwaye iphuze.

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Misela imo

Nje ukuba uthumele imiqondiso ethile, jonga ukuze ubone ukuba iqabane lakho liyayichola na. Ukuba bajonga ulwimi lwakho lomzimba kwaye baxhomekeke kuwe, mhlawumbi ukwindlela elungileyo. Thatha izinto kwinqanaba elilandelayo ngokudlala ngothando okanye ukuzincoma. Ukuba uziva unesibindi, kwaye uqinisekile ukuba uye phambili, zama ukubanga kwenye indawo ngaphandle kwemilebe kuqala, njengesandla okanye isihlathi. Oku kunokuba sisiqhekeza esithambileyo somkhenkce, kwaye impendulo yomnye umntu inokukuxelela ukuba ulilungele inyathelo elilandelayo.

Indawo elungileyo, ixesha elifanelekileyo

Khumbula: kukho ixesha kunye nendawo yokuncamisa, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ayikho phakathi kwesidlo sakusihlwa sentsapho. Abantu abaninzi abakhululekanga ngemiboniso yothando esidlangalaleni, ngoko ke uya kufuna ukulinda de ube uwedwa phambi kokuba uqalise ukwanga, ngakumbi ukuba kukwanga kokuqala. Qinisekisa ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nikwimo elungileyo, ngokunjalo; kusenokubonakala kumnandi ukuphazamisa umntu kwiindaba ezimbi ngokumanga, kodwa akusoloko kusamkelwa kakuhle.

Imvume ngundoqo

Akukho mntu ufuna ukuya kuncamisa kuphela ukwaliwa, okanye ukugqiba ukuncamisa umntu okude nehlombe ngayo. Qinisekisa ukuba omnye umntu ufuna ukukuncamisa kangangoko ufuna ukubanga. Oku kunokuthetha ukuba bathumela iimpawu ezicacileyo ezingezizo ezomlomo, ngakumbi ukuba ukubudlelwane obumiselweyo, kodwa ukuba awuqinisekanga, kutheni ungabuzi nje? Ukuzithemba kunomtsalane, kwaye akukho nto intle njengokuphuma kanye uthi, 'Ndifuna ukukuncamisa.'

Yithathe kancinci

Nje ukuba ulungele ukwanga, ngqiyame kancinci. Uya kufuna ukujongisa intloko kwicala elichasene neqabane lakho, ke gcina amehlo akho evulekile-ukudibana kwamehlo athambileyo kulungile, njengoko kukugcina ukujonga kwakho kugxile kwimilebe yabo. Ukubethelela isilevu somnye umntu okanye isidlele esandleni sakho kunokuba nothando kwaye kunokukuvumela ukuba ukhokele ngobunono ubuso babo kwicala elifanelekileyo, kodwa ungabi namandla kakhulu. Iqhuma lebunzi ngamabomu kwaye lithambileyo limnandi, nalo, kodwa qiniseka ukuba awunqonqozi iintloko.

Yigcine ithambile

Qala ngokumanga okulula, ngokuthe ngqo. Imilebe yakho kufuneka ithambe kwaye ihlukane kancinci, kwaye ukwanga kufuneka kuqale ngoxinzelelo oluthambileyo. Ungabunyusa ubunzulu kancinci ukuba iqabane lakho liyaphendula, okanye uzame ukuvula umlomo wakho kancinci, ubeke umlebe osezantsi weqabane lakho phakathi kwemilebe yakho. Ukuba ungathanda ukuzama ukusebenzisa ulwimi, luvavanye kuqala ngokuhambisa ulwimi lwakho emlonyeni wabo; ukuba baphendule ngobubele, vula imilebe yakho ngokubanzi kwaye uthinte ulwimi lwakho kancinci kolwabo. Ungaze utyhale ulwimi lwakho ngqo emlonyeni womnye umntu, kodwa vumela iqabane lakho likhokele kwaye liphendule kwiintshukumo zabo ngohlobo.

Khumbula ukuphefumla

Ukuba unokuphefumla ngeempumlo zakho ngelixa uphuzana, ilungile loo nto, kodwa ukuba akunakwenzeka, thatha ikhefu rhoqo kwaye emva koko uphefumle. Kulungile-enyanisweni, kungokwemvelo - ukuthatha ikhefu elifutshane okwesibini okanye ezimbini. Unokusebenzisa ezi khefu njengethuba lokutshintsha indlela yakho yokuncamisa kancinci, kwaye ujonge kunye neqabane lakho malunga nendlela abaziva ngayo ngokujonga kubo ukujonga indlela abasabela ngayo, okanye ukugcina ukukhanya kwemo ngoncumo.

Musa ukuma nje apho

Ngelixa uninzi logxininiso lwakho luya kuba semilebeni yakho, akufanele ulibale malunga nomzimba wakho uphela. Yenza izandla zakho zibandakanyeke ekwangeni ngokuchukumisa ubuso beqabane lakho okanye emva kwentloko yabo, ukubamba isandla sabo, okanye ukubamba kancinci ezinqeni zabo okanye umva osezantsi. Okukhona ubamba iqabane lakho, kokukhona ngokusondele ngakumbi ukwanga kwakho kuya kuba, ke qiniseka ukuba inqanaba lokuchukumisa lifanelekile kubudlelwane bakho.

Qwalasela

Kulo lonke ukwanga, qiniseka ukuba unikela ingqalelo kwiqabane lakho. Iimpawu ezithethwayo nezingezizo ezozwi zinokukunceda uqonde indlela eliziva ngayo iqabane lakho. Ulwimi lomzimba luyinxalenye enkulu yendlela abantu abanxibelelana ngayo - ngaba omnye umntu uxhomekeke kuwe kwaye aqalise ukwanga, okanye bajonge kude, okanye bahlehle? Ukuba babonakala bengonwabanga nangayiphi na indlela, okanye ukuba akuqinisekanga, hlehla uze ubavumele bakhokele. Ukuncamisana yincoko, hayi intetho yomlomo omnye, ngoko ke mabaveze izimvo zabo. Ukunikela ingqalelo kwinto eyenziwa liqabane lakho kunokukuxelela okuninzi malunga nendlela abathanda ngayo ukuncamisa, kwakhona, ngoko zama ukwenza isipili kwiintshukumo zabo kwaye ubone indlela abaphendula ngayo.

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Fumana ubugcisa

Zininzi iindlela zokuncamisa ezingabandakanyi nje iiseti ezimbini zemilebe. Zama ukuxuba izinto kancinci ukunqanda ukuba kudala kakhulu. Isidlele, ibunzi, kunye nezandla zonke iindawo ezama-nenyani ukuba ukwanga umntu. Ukuba uyathandabuza, buza iqabane lakho apho lingathanda ukuncanyiswa khona, okanye ulixelele into ofuna ukuyenza. Ukuncamisa akusoloko kufuneka kube luthando, nokuba; ukuncamisa okuthambileyo phezu kwentloko, okanye ukuvuthela ukwanga, kunokwazisa umntu ukuba umkhathalele xa ukuncamisa okuzeleyo ingeyiyo le nto uyilandelayo.